There is a spiritual concept that I am just beginning to understand. Some do not get free from childhood wounds without someone hurting more for them than they hurt as a child. If they were hurt at a 10 on a scale of 1 to 10 then you have to hurt at an 11 for them to get free. Sometimes the hurting is from wounds that they have personally caused. Yet when the number is reached I have watched people get set free from wounds that have haunted them their whole life.
It takes great courage to love someone so much that you are willing to let your heart hurt for them in such a way that they are free from their past pain. That is living for and like Jesus.